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Patriarchy & Parental Consent in Geneva

At my personal blog, I am working through John Witte Jr and Robert Kingdon’s book Sex, Marriage, and Family in John Calvin’s Geneva. While the title is a bit dry, the book was a great example of historical scholarship that helps the reader think through contemporary problems.  I thought my summary of and thoughts on this chapter might interest the readers of Kuyperian.

In most cultures parental involvement in who someone married was a given. Children assumed that the approval, especially of the father, was good and in  many cases necessary for a marriage to move forward. Geneva was no different. Eight of the first ten articles in Geneva’s 1546 Marriage Ordinance were devoted to parental consent. The prominence of parental consent issues in this document show the importance of the doctrine to John Calvin. Here is a summary of those eight articles.

1. Any son under twenty and daughter under eighteen years of age had to have the father’s consent to marry. After that age they were free to marry whom they wished though the father’s consent was still desirable.

In this article the age at which a child can marry without parental consent is given. However, there was “no minimum age children needed to be to enter into marriage in the first place.” This was flexible. The child had to be able to bear or sire children and thus must be post-puberty. In theory, any time after puberty a child could be given consent to marry. In reality, the maturity or lack thereof of a child played a big role in when consent was given.

2. If the father was dead, a ward or guardian could take the father’s place. Relatives of the child were to be consulted about a child’s marriage choice if the father was dead.

3, If two people under-age have entered into a secret marriage it can be dissolved at the parents’ or guardians’ request.

4. Secret promises to marry between under-age couples were not valid.

Note that the marriage “can be” dissolved in #3 at the parent’s request. It does not appear that it had to be

The authors make this note. “All the leading Protestant reformers allowed parents to annul their children’s secret engagements. The question that divided Protestants sharply was whether parents could annul their children’s secret marriages, too.”  By 1560 Calvin decided that secret marriages, which had been consummated, could not be annulled just because the couple was under-age.

They later add

The medieval canonists used sacramental logic: even secret marriages could not be dissolved because they were sacramental. Calvin used prudential logic: Even secret marriages could not be dissolved because that catered to parental tyranny, left despoiled virgins vulnerable to spinsterhood, and consigned any children of the union to the bane of bastardy.

5. A father cannot withhold the dowry if a daughter above age has married lawfully, but against the father’s wishes.

6. A father cannot compel a child to marry against their will. If a young person refuses consent the father cannot punish them for this.

7. If a child rebels against their father’s will and marries badly the father can refuse to provide for the child.

This is the balance to #5 and #6. Children had freedom in who they married, but if it could be proven that they married a wicked or immoral spouse then the father had the right to refuse financial support.

8. A previously married child is free to remarry without the father’s consent though it is desirable.

Calvin felt that parental consent was essential in making the decision to marry. It gave the child guidance and direction in determining whom to marry. Here are few quotes from Calvin on the matter:

Since marriage forms a principle part of human life, it is right that, in contracting it, children should be subject to their parents, and should obey their counsel. This order is what nature prescribes and dictates.

It is not lawful for the children of a family to contract marriage except with the consent of the parents. And, certainly, natural equity dictates that, in a matter of such importance, children should depend upon the will of the parents.

However, Calvin was no fool and he knew the doctrine of depravity extended to parents as well as children. He often condemned men in the Bible, such as Caleb, for holding out their daughters as prizes of war without consulting them. Here are some quotes that show the balance between the consent of the child and the will of the parents:

Children should allow themselves to be governed by their parents, and that they, on the other hand, do not drag their children by force to what is against their inclination, and they have no other object in view, in the exercise of their authority, than the advantage of their children.

Although it is the office of parents to settle their daughters in life, they are not permitted to exercise tyrannical power or to assign them to whatever husbands they think fit without consulting them.  For while all contracts ought to be voluntary, freedom ought to prevail especially in marriage that no one may pledge his faith against his will.

Here is a quote from Theodore Beza, John Calvin’s successor:

Are children to agree necessarily with those in whose power they are? I reply that they are not forced since a free and fully voluntary consent is a first requirement for marriage. But still the respect owed to parents  and to those who take the place of parents demands that [a minor child] should not disagree with them, except for a very serious reason. But in turn, it is only fair that parents treat their children with moderation and not force them into this or that marriage against their will.

Parental consent like individual consent was essential to a valid engagement in Geneva.  Here are a  few closing thoughts on Geneva’s laws regarding parents involvement in the marriages of their children.

There is a wonderful balance, at least on paper, between the will of the parents and the will of the child. We tend towards extremes. Many evangelical parents have little say in who their children marry. They assume a child can make their decisions with little guidance. In reaction to this many family-centered types have made the will of the child of little consequence. If dad doesn’t like the boy then the daughter cannot marry him even he is a godly man. In Geneva, neither the child nor the parent got to dictate. Both were to work together towards a mutually agreed upon marriage. Parents should be involved in whom their children choose to marry, even if the child has left the home. But the will of the parents does not trump the will of the child.

In Geneva, the father had real authority, but not absolute authority. In family-centered/patriarchal churches it is often assumed that whatever dad thinks must go. A father makes decisions about his daughter’s future and assumes there is no one above him to whom he is accountable. But in Geneva fathers would be chastised by the Consistory if they were exercising their power in a tyrannical fashion. Children could appeal to the Consistory if the father refused consent for selfish reasons. It was specifically said that if a child and parent could not come to an agreement then they should go to the magistrate. Beza said, “Severity of fathers in all aspects of their role should be shunned, and likewise fathers must be warned against abusing the power entrusted them by God.”  Patriarchy, as understood by the reformers, meant that fathers were accountable to the elders, the broader community, and the magistrate. The fear some have of patriarchy could be alleviated if there was more authority over fathers and if fathers submitted willingly to that authority. On the flip side, some of those anti-patriarchy folks need to remember that fathers do have real authority over their children.

The above paragraphs show how Geneva tried to functioned as a community, not a collection of individuals. The decision to marry was not left up to the man and woman only, as is often the case in our society. The parents, extended family, community, state, church, prospective spouses, and of course God speaking in the Scriptures all had a say in who married who.  Today if one person “loves” another person that is assumed to be all that is necessary for a marriage to be formed. But in Geneva that would have been impossible. Outside consent was as necessary as individual consent.  The decision to marry was built on the consent of the community not just on the feelings of the individuals involved.<>сервис определения позиций

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Bartering and Blessings

This is a follow up to a previous post. I am now going to address two objections to the idea that we should not give to get.  Then I will end with some ways to have a more biblical mindset when giving.

Doesn’t God Promise Blessings to Those Who Obey?

It could appear that what I said in the previous post contradicts the idea the God blesses us for obedience. If we give to God won’t we get back from God? Isn’t salvation a trade on some level? God does promise blessings if we obey and we should strive after those blessings. We should seek to obey everything God has commanded. But this is not the same thing as trading with God so he will give us what we want. And while the difference is not always easy to discern, it is real and important. Paul knew he had fought the good fight and had a crown of glory laid up for him. But he also knew that God owed him nothing.  Paul did not treat God like a puppet.

The trick here is the definition of blessing.  Usually for us blessing means I get what I want when I want it. In the Scriptures there are blessings in this life that come with obedience. The man who avoids sinners and meditates on God’s Word will be blessed (Psalm 1).  But those blessings are not defined by us. We don’t get to say, “Lord, I will trade you a good prayer life for a new wife.”  “Lord I will read my Bible every day and you will make sure my job doesn’t fall through.” (Remember these trades are usually unspoken.) You could read God’s Word and meditate on God’s Word and get fired for obeying it. Even in Psalm 1 the ultimate blessing is in the end when we stand with God’s people after the wicked have been driven away (verses 4-5).  The problem with a bartering mindset is that we set the rules. We say, “I will trade you this for that.” That is not the same thing as saying, “I know God blesses obedience, so I am going to obey him and he will bless when and how he sees fit.”  The first views God as if we are a consumer. The second views God as if we are his sons and heir

Shouldn’t Relationships Have Some Give and Take?

One person commented by asking, “Shouldn’t friendships be built on a give and take type relationship?”  The answer to this is, “No.” Friendships should be built on giving. We should pour ourselves out for those around us, whether it is family or friends or our brothers and sisters at church.  Of course, we will benefit from most friendships when we pour ourselves out for others. This is seen clearly in passages like Ephesians 5:28 where it is said that the man who loves his wife loves himself.  Throughout Proverbs there is the idea that a man who disciplines his son benefits with the son giving honor to the father.  In other words, the Bible teaches  that we are blessed when we give.

But this is not the same thing as giving so we will get. The question is not do we receive blessing when we give to others. We do. The question is do we think we deserve it. Do we believe that if we give x they must give y? And as with God, we often trade for a specific thing. If I am nice to her she will help me with the children. If I serve at church in this way, then the leaders will give me more responsibility later. If I go over and help him with his yard, he will help me with my car. We should not have this mindset. We should not be giving so others will give to us now or in the future. We should give freely to our friends and family and let God bring blessings through them when he sees fit.

But what about a friend who is constantly taking and never giving? Should I remain friends with that person? The answer may be no.  But if you decide to stop being friends with a person it still has to be rooted in love for that person. By refusing their friendship you are still giving to them.  You are giving them the gift of a rebuke.

 Learning to Give Not Trade

First, learn to give in circumstances where there is no immediate benefit.  Care for a child when the child cannot give anything back to you.  Show respect to someone who doesn’t respect you. Give someone a gift when you know they cannot pay your back.

Second, drink deep of God’s many kindnesses to you.  The more we meditate on God’s kindness the easier it will be for us to express that same undeserved kindness to others.

Third, do things for people secretly. This does not mean every gift must be a secret. But doing things secretly can show us the state of our heart.  If it is hard then we know we give because we like praise.

Fourth, learn to say thank you instead of immediately thinking of a way to pay someone back for what they did for you. One of the key ways we know we like to trade is how we react when someone gives us something.  Just say, “Thank you.” Don’t try to find a way to pay the gift back.

Fifth, whenever you do something for your children, a friend, or your spouse strive to do it for their good and their good alone. Our hearts are deceitful here. We can often do something that appears to be the right thing, say teaching our children to do chores, but instead of doing it for the good of our children we are doing it for our good. We  are teaching them a good thing, but for our benefit. We are bartering with them instead of giving to them.

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Chick-fil-A Founder Truett Cathy Dies at 93

The AP reports:

Chick-fil-A founder S. Truett Cathy died early Monday at 93. The billionaire rose from poverty by building a privately held restaurant chain that famously closes every Sunday but drew unwanted attention for the Cathy family’s opposition to gay marriage. Read more.

What a remarkable figure! Cathy’s productive life is a testament to a man who committed his life endeavors to the Biblical God. His business, a model-business, offers the greatest service with the greatest food; the perfect recipe for one of the most popular franchises in the world. Further, they honored the Lord’s Day in a profoundly un-American way. They emphasized that a successful business is a business given over to the Lord of the Sabbath.

Cathy’s contributions to society were more than simply delicious chicken sandwiches.

Cathy dedicated his time and resources to many philanthropic causes, focusing on those related to the welfare of needy children. He reportedly welcomed homeless children into his home and taught in Sunday school sessions. He fostered children for over 30 years, and took in nearly 200 foster children through WinShape Homes. WinShape Homes is a long-term foster care program that includes 11 foster homes throughout Alabama, Georgia, and Tennessee.

In 1984, Cathy established the WinShape Foundation, named for its mission to shape winners. WinShape Foundation consists of WinShape Homes, WinShape RetreatSM, WinShape MarriageSM, WinShape Camps, WinShape, College Program, WinShape Wilderness and WinShape International. In 2010, the foundation provided roughly $18 million to fund the development of foster homes and summer camp. Past donations from the WinShape Foundation include the funding of several college scholarships and marriage counseling programs. The foundation has awarded nearly 820 students of Berry College with scholarships of up to $32,000.

WinShape has donated, since 2003, $5 million to groups including the Marriage & Family Foundation, Exodus International and the Family Research Council (the latter two in the amount of $1,000 each), which strongly oppose same-sex marriage and other initiatives supported by the LGBT community. 

In 2008, Cathy’s WinShape Foundation won the William E. Simon Prize for Philanthropic leadership which awarded it $250,000 towards future philanthropy, as a result of its contributions to society. The prize was created to further ideals such as personal responsibility, resourcefulness, volunteerism, scholarship, individual freedom, faith in God, and helping people who help themselves. It honors living philanthropists who have shown exemplary leadership through their charitable giving, highlights the power of philanthropy to achieve positive change, and seeks to inspire others to support charities that achieve genuine results.

In recognition of his philanthropic efforts through WinShape, Cathy received the Children’s Champion Award for Family and Community from the charitable organization Children’s Hunger Fund in 2011.

Cathy also had a Leadership Scholarship program for Chick-fil-A restaurant employees, which has awarded more than $23 million in $1,000 scholarships in the past 35 years. a

Whatever Chick-fil-A you may visit, workers are trained to politely respond to your requests with “My pleasure.” Cathy lived his life for the pleasure of God and it was that pleasure that led him to contribute to the lives of so many. He once remarked that “we are created for the purpose of giving.” His long life was a reflection of that glorious purpose.

Here is a video of this remarkable man:
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I Call That a Bargain

As a boy I loved to trade baseball and football cards with my friends. We would meet on Saturday morning, go to the local supermarket, buy a few packs, open them up and then decide what we wanted to keep and what we wanted to trade.   Of course, what you could get from your friends always depended on what you had. If I had a Ken Griffey Jr. rookie card or Brett Favre special edition then I could get something in return. But if all I had was a 15 year veteran who had never really done much then I was stuck.

I was talking to a friend recently and we were discussing how we treat our wives and God and it became clear that even as grown men we still like to trade. But now instead of trading cards we are trading good deeds for good deeds. I will do this for you, if you will do this for me.  We give so we can get.  We bargain. The more I thought about this the uglier it became. I realized that as Christians we often approach life like we are trading cards (or whatever girls traded when they were young).  Here are some ways we do this.

 Parenting

I never traded a card if I did not think I was getting something better in return.  Parents adopt this same mindset. They do not give for the sake of the child, but for the sake of the parent. This can work a thousand ways, but here are some examples. I bought you those clothes so now you must show me respect.  I spent time playing a game with you, so now you should happily do your chores. I spent my time and money to educate you, so now you must get a job that I approve of.  We can do this with spanking as well. Spanking can become a way of getting from the child instead of giving to the child. We are trading some swats for what we want. Now all of these things, buying clothes, playing games, etc. are good things and we should do them. But there is often a spirit behind them that does not reflect the love of God towards us. The things we do become hooks in our child to bind them to us instead of training for our child to be free to follow God. The parents do not spend their life giving. They spend their life trading.

 Marriage

Spouses do the same thing in marriage.  The wife cooks all day and thinks her husband should now be nice to her because of her labor in the kitchen. The husband treats his wife to a nice dinner on Friday night so he can watch football on Sunday afternoon.  The wife submits to her husband in one easy area so she won’t have to in another more difficult area.  The husband is kind in public so he can be a jerk in private.  The possibilities are endless. Just like the parents the spouses here are trading, not giving.

Our Walk with God

And of course, we can do this with God as well. We barter with God. God if I pray every day then I expect my life to be easier.  If I show up at church every week then I won’t get fired or fall into financial ruin. If I clean up my life then you will bring me a wife/husband. If I read my Bible every day then I will not get cancer or my child won’t die in a car wreck. If I preach faithfully then my church will grow. If I start obeying here then I expect you to bless me over there. And on and on it goes. We are trading with God. We are not giving. We are treating God like a vending machine where if we put in so much time or obedience then he will dispense blessings.

One final point here: these trades are usually unspoken.  We don’t say to neighbor, “I play ball with my son so he will do his chores.”  Or “I am nice to my wife so she will let me buy that gun I want.”  The words are rarely spoken, but that doesn’t mean the trade is not happening.

 Dangers with this Mindset

First, we begin to look at people based on what they can give us. You don’t trade with people who have nothing to offer.  Unless the person has something worth trading they are of little value to us. At best we put up with them and at worse we totally reject them. We stop being generous. We don’t give freely whether the person can return it to us or not. 

Second, we are frequently disappointed when God, our children, or our spouses do not deliver on their part of the trade.  People who live this way are bitter because they thought they were trading for $50.00 rookie card and got a 2 cent card instead.

Third, we can assume that others are treating us the same way.  When someone is kind to us, we assume they are trading with us, not giving to us. So we try to give back to them in some way.  This cuts out true thanksgiving. True thanksgiving comes when something is given, not when something is traded for.

Fourth, our children will learn to function this way. They will drink from our well and learn to be kind to those from whom they can get something in return.

Fifth, we misunderstand God’s grace in our lives. If we think that God is in the bartering business we are blind to our own sinfulness and God’s goodness to us. God was not kind to us because of what we could give back to him.  We can offer him nothing that he does not already have. It is not a minor problem to misunderstand God’s free grace. 

Sixth, we obscure God’s grace to those around us. God’s grace is freely given. But if we treat others as bargaining tools to get what we want then we twist his grace. Our offer of free grace loses its potency. Then our evangelism falls short because we are no longer heralds of the good news, but rather we  are heralds of a flea-market god who will bargain with you for his great salvation. 

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Tattoos: A cry for help and a longing for relationship

Guest Post by Rev Dr Steve Jeffery, Minister at Emmanuel Evangelical Church, London, England (BlogFacebookTwitter)

Someone who wants a tattoo is trying to say something. And sometimes, I’m afraid, I fear it’s just a form of narcissism: “I just can’t be happy unless there’s something about me that makes me different, that draws attention to the uniqueness and individuality of me, to the unique and individual claim that have on your attention. Please can we talk about me now – my life, my loves, my experiences?”

This remains the case whatever particular design of tattoo the young Narcissus has in mind. Indeed, this is exactly the point: Some people like wildlife, so they want a dolphin tattoo on their ankle; some people like death metal, so they want a 6-inch tarantula crawling across their face; some people like Christian Cool, so they want El Shaddai in Hebrew spanning their C3 to C6 cervical vertebrae. Whatever. But in every case, the message is the same: “This is me, please will you notice me.”

This tendency is strongest in teenagers (and adults who are still acting like teenagers), who naturally go through periods of (often understandable) insecurity, and is good reason for any parent to say to an under-18-year-old (and any wise friend to say to an under-30-year-old), “No, you can’t (shouldn’t) have a tattoo now. You really will grow out of it.”

Sometimes, however, there’s something else going on. This narcissism can be a sign of a deeper relational pathology. People just don’t have friends – at least, they don’t have friends they feel able to talk to about things that really matter to them. In such instances, the tattoo is a cry for a particular kind of relationship, one in which we can get beyond the superficial and talk about our deepest, most intense, most joyful, most painful experiences.

This need is understandable: Of course a teenage girl wants to talk about the fact that the LORD alone has been her Almighty One, her Shaddai; of course the newly-engaged 22-year-old Joshua wants to talk about Judy; of course a bereaved couple want to talk about the death of a child. But the solution to these needs is not to parade them across our bodies, but to pursue the kinds of relationships that will meet them.<>продвинуть в гугле

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Leithart: High Tech Medievalism

 

Peter Leithart I heard a revealing statement recently while visiting a home-bound Roman Catholic woman. She was upset that she couldn’t make it to Mass. Not to worry, she added warmly, “I’ll watch a Mass on television.” That got me to thinking. Of course, this woman had no choice. She was too ill to get to church. But the thousands in TV “churches” who do not have the same excuse, What are they thinking? What do they expect to get out of watching a Mass or a worship service on TV?

This woman’s view of the Mass is nothing new, of course. During the Middle Ages, the “worshippers” would mill around in the back of the cathedral striking business deals and catching up on the latest gossip. Then, a bell would ring from the altar. Everyone would stop and look, standing on tiptoe and pressing forward. The host was being elevated held up before the congregation by the presiding priest. The people believed that they could receive grace by just viewing the consecrated bread. In fact, that was about all they were allowed to do. It was one of the main achievements of the Reformers to include the congregation in the celebration of the communion.

So, there’s nothing new about TV Masses. The TV Mass is just a high-tech resurgence of the worst of medieval spirituality. Television raises questions, however, that would challenge even the most ingenious scholastic. Medieval theologians seriously debated whether or not a mouse eating a piece of consecrated bread received the body of Christ. Modern scholastics will be faced with equally taxing questions. Can grace be communicated by satellite? Can a Mass be taped, or does it have to be live? What about Cable? VCRs? Does replaying of taped Mass have any effect on the grace communicated?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not taking potshots at the Roman Catholic Church. After all, they’re relative newcomers to the TV world. Protestants (can we really divide Western Christianity into Catholic and Protestant?) have grasped the telecommunications opportunity with gusto, long before the Catholic church showed a glimmer of interest. But, then, Protestants invented the “drive-in” Church. (I’ve always wondered if the deacons (-esses) wear roller skates as they distribute the elements.) Before that, Protestants invented the camp meeting and a host of other grotesque distortions of Christian worship. One pastor told me that he had heard a TV evangelist tell his audience to go to the fridge, get some bread and grape juice, and join the – what should I call it? – the studio congregation in a celebration of communion!

There’s a serious point here. Really, there is, I’m not just venting my spleen…

The crucial question: What is TV evangelism all about anyway? I write this with a straight face. What is the point of TV ministries? The Bakkers hinted at their answer on Nightline. They told Ted Koppel that they had been offered a guest spot on The Late Show. That’s the show Joan Rivers left. It is without doubt one of the most distasteful and anti-Christian shows on television. And the Bakkers were seriously thinking about taking the offer! A TV station in Tennessee was thinking about picking up the old Jim and Tammy show! And Jim and Tammy talk incessantly about returning to their ministry at PTL (or whatever it’s called). Clearly, for the Bakkers, their TV “ministry” is just a form of entertainment. They’re just another celebrity couple, like the ones who are featured in People and National Enquirer. (Maybe Jim and Tammy have been featured too; I haven’t been grocery shopping lately.)

So, what’s all this mean? Does it mean we abandon the mass media? Turn it over to the devil? Of course not, in His providence, the Lord has given us valuable tools for reaching vast numbers of people with the gospel. And we should use these tools.

What it does mean is that there are inherent limitations to what we can do through the mass media (or the ‘Mass’ media for that matter). We shouldn’t use our tools uncritically. The medium of television, for all its power of persuasion, simply cannot take the place of the church as the agency of Christian dominion. After all, it’s primarily a medium of entertainment. Of passivity. More than that, there is an inescapable and irreducible personal dimension to the Christian life that is lacking in television “churches.” It centers in the personal fellowship with the other members of Christ’s body, fellowship around His Table.

I know, I know. I sound like a reactionary traditionalist – I know. I should come into the twentieth century. The century of the sleek, high-tech Church. Perhaps there is some nostalgia lurking behind my reaction to the Bakkers. But let’s not be deceived. A Christian civilization is not built by dramatic media splashes, as important as they can be in the short run. A Christian civilization is built by faithful men and women who week-by-week reconsecrate themselves to the Lord in Word and Sacrament, and who day-by-day seek to obey the Lord and take dominion in their particular callings. Some sincere and faithful men and women have been and will be called to work in mass media. For that we should praise God, but let’s not expect too much of them.

Published with written permission from Dr. Peter Leithart. Edited and Updated from The Geneva Review, September 1987.

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The Death of the Elderly: Part I

This is the first of three blog posts on how we treat the elderly. This post will focus on the ways we are destroying what the elderly are meant to be. It is a negative post. The next post will focus on the results of cutting off of the elderly. The final post will focus on what we can do to fix the problem. 

You shall stand up before the gray head and honor the face of an old man, and you shall fear your God: I am the LORD (Leviticus 19:32).

As Christians we have fought hard against the massacre of children that masquerades as a right our society. We march against the clinics. We set up counseling centers to offset the lies of Planned Parenthood. Pastors set aside a Sunday to preach against the murder of the unborn. But abortion has a younger sister. She is not yet full grown. She has not reached the power and domination of her older sister. But give her time and she will pick up her shovel and begin burying people, just as her more mature sister has.

It should not surprise us that killing unborn children and hatred of the elderly go hand in hand. Both groups are weak. Both groups are or will be a drain on time, energy, and money. Both groups, by our society’s values, contribute little. Both groups are physically weak and therefore easily dispensed with.

“But our society is not killing the elderly,” you say. It is true. We do not put them down, as we do the unborn. Yet our society is killing what the elderly are meant to be. The idea of the elderly is being put to death. Is it that far fetched to think that one day we might kill their bodies as well? Here are four ways we kill the elderly in our society.  If you think of more, put them in the comments.

First, we have exalted youth culture for decades.  The Church has drunk in this idea as much as the world has.  What demographic are movie makers most interested in seeing their movies? Here is a list of the top 25 money making movies in 2013. Which of them had a strong, mature elderly character? The closest I saw was Kevin Costner in Man of Steel. What group are the TV executives most interested in watching their shows? Who do most of the advertisements appeal to? When an elderly person is exalted it usually is because they are acting young. For example, Christie Brinkley was recently praised in a magazine because she could wear a sexy swimsuit at sixty. Our society loves an old person who acts young.  Once the young aspired to be like the old.  Now the old are required to act and look young.

Second, we have an unbiblical love of youthful beauty and strength.  If wearing bikinis and looking cut is the most important thing, then the elderly will have no place among us. If we want smooth skin, tan legs, mini-skirts, skin tight t-shirts, and white teeth then again the elderly will not have a place among us. There is a place for enjoying youthful beauty. When we see an NBA player  throw down a dunk or a woman whose beauty is striking we should stand back in proper admiration. But there are other types of beauty. If we cannot see the beauty of wrinkled hands, blue hair, men who walk with a limp, poor eyesight, and false teeth then we have lost something vital.

Third, we refuse to bring our parents and grandparents into our homes to die. There are exceptions to this. Sometimes the physical needs of a parent are so great they need care which cannot be provided at home. However, in many cases putting a parent in a home is not necessary. It is just convenient. What could we glean if we got to listen to our parents and watch them die? But we don’t like death, except on the big screen. Who wants the burden of changing adult diapers, bathing an older woman, or getting up in the night to care for a parent? What does it say about a society when the people who poured out their lives for us are left to die alone?

Fourth, we do not long for wisdom and maturity. We want to remain forever young, holding on to sixteen as long as we can. But wisdom resides with the aged. Not all the elderly are wise. But many of them are. They have fought battles we have not. They have seen things we have not. They have made mistakes we can learn from. They have endured loss and pain we have not gone through. But in our culture wisdom lives with the young. It is embarrassing how the young treat the old. At times I am ashamed of my age bracket.  We get angry because they are slow in super market. We don’t talk to them because they haven’t seen the latest movie.  We organize our church services so they cannot really participate. We get irritated when they tell us the same story again. We are so sure the way they did it was wrong. We snipe at them or worse ignore them. The way the young treat the old would make our forefathers blush. The biggest problem is not that we do it, but that we think it is a virtue.

There are other ways we have cut off the elderly. Our love of the newest technology comes to mind. But these four points should give you the picture. In a culture where youth and beauty are exalted and where we despise wisdom is it any wonder that the elderly are put out to pasture?<>рекламные щиты стоимостьpagerank а

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What’s wrong with tattoos?

Guest Post by Dr. Steve Jeffery, Minister at Emmanuel Evangelical Church

Of the many issues worth considering here, one that’s well worth reflecting on is the issue of permanence. A tattoo effectively freezes the wearer in time. Whatever he (or she) is saying with the tattoo at the moment it’s done, (s)he’ll be saying for ever.

This is most obviously a problem if the design is inherently sinful – an explicit picture, a pagan religious symbol, or some profane language, for example.

But other seemingly more innocuous designs can also create problems. Your teenage girlfriend Julie might love the design, but Wendy will probably be less impressed when you finally marry her ten years later.

Even things that appear harmless can, with the passing of the years, end up as badges of immaturity: a profound slogan can quickly become banal, and a teenager’s edgy motto can be childish on the arm of a 35-year-old.

The bottom line is that growing up in every aspect of life – from basic Christian godliness to cultural appreciation – is an important part of Christian living. And a tattoo simply puts the brakes on.<>seo продвижение  ов

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Liturgy as Emotional Discipline

Moderns tend to view emotions as inevitable. We cannot help what we feel. Paul says, “Not so fast.” Throughout Paul’s epistles he encourages us to feel certain things and to not feel other things.  One of the best examples is Romans 12:15 where Paul encourages us to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep.  Here are two expressions of emotion that Paul commands us to feel. Come on Paul, you know I cannot just conjure up weeping! There are numerous other examples as well. Our emotions are not a runaway semi careening towards the bottom of the hill. We are to corral our emotions, to discipline them, so that we feel what is appropriate to each circumstance. There are times we are supposed to feel anger, joy, love, etc. Christians often speak of training our minds to think righteous thoughts (Romans 12:2), but we do not speak of training our emotions to feel righteous feelings (Romans 12:10-12).  Our whole life is to be brought into conformity to God’s Word, including our emotions.

One of the main ways we learn emotional discipline is through a fixed liturgy (worship service) that includes a variety of tones. At my church, we walk through the same basic pattern every week in worship. God calls us. We confess our sins. We hear God’s Word read and preached. We eat together at the Lord’s Supper. Finally we leave with God’s blessing to go out and bless the world with the gospel. Each step has its own tone. The call is exciting, the confession of sin more sad, the forgiveness of sins is filled with joy, and so on. The tone is not dictated by the feelings of the person in the pew or by the pastor. The tone is dictated by what we are supposed to feel at each part of the worship service.

When we enter God’s presence we should be excited that God has called us into his presence. We may not feel excited when we enter God’s house. We may feel discouraged or distracted or apathetic. Yet the minister does not change the call to worship to match our feelings. At our church the call to worship is a Scripture reading usually followed by a response of the people. Here is one example. I read Psalm 96:1-4 and then we have this exchange:

Minister: In the Name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit

People: Amen!                                                                                                               Matthew 28:19

 Minister: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ

People: And also to you.                                                                                        Romans 1:7

 Minister: I will sing unto the Lord

People: For He has dealt bountifully with me.                                      Psalm 13:6

The congregation (or the minister) may not feel like they are getting grace and peace from God. They may not feel like God has dealt bountifully with them. But their feelings do not dictate truth. God does. By opening our service this way, the minister is saying, “This is what you are supposed to feel because this is truth.” He is saying bring your emotions in line with the truth.

The same could be said of each part of our worship service. We kneel each week and confess our sins.  Does every member of my congregation feel like they are sinner each week? Do we always want to get down and declare “Almighty and most merciful Father, we have erred and strayed from your ways like lost sheep?” Well no, of course not. After we get done publicly reading God’s Word the whole congregation says, “Thanks be to God.” Do we always feel like giving thanks for God’s Word? Maybe the reading was too long, too boring, or I just don’t want to hear God’s Word this week. On one level that does not matter. We are to be thankful for God’s Word no matter how we feel. More than that we are train our emotions to be thankful for the Word. We may not feel like eating the Lord’s Supper with our brothers and sisters in Christ, but we do it anyway. We may not feel blessed by God at the end of service and yet a benediction (blessing) from God comes anyway whether we want one or not. Why? Because how we feel at the end does not dictate the truth.

A good liturgy will force us to examine our emotions. We will have to do and say things we don’t feel like doing. But a good liturgy should do more. It should train us to feel what we ought to feel when we are confronted with our sin, God’s Word, our brothers, and interacting with the world. A consistent liturgy with the proper Biblical tone for each part will discipline us emotionally. We will not just learn to think Biblically, but we will are also learn to feel Biblically. A good liturgy will help bring our emotions in line with the reality of God’s Word.<>game online mobileрекламма

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Just Flexing for the Cameras

NFL wide receivers are some of the most disciplined and physically gifted men on the planet. They are in top physical condition. They are big, strong, and fast. They carefully watch what goes into their body. They have certain foods they eat and others they don’t eat. Most have a regular routine of vitamins and supplements they take. These athletes have precise exercise routines that include a variety of workouts. During the off season, which runs from February through July, they refine and hone their receiving skills, spending hours with their quarterback.  But it is not just the physical discipline. They watch hours of film each week as they study their opponents. They study their playbook learning dozens of different plays and variations on those plays so they can make in-game adjustments. They have the courage to catch the football even if they are about to be crushed by a safety.  If you have six minutes, here is a link to some of the best catches by the best receiver in the NFL right now, Calvin Johnson. You should be awed by what he can do.  If you want to see a living, breathing example of discipline, watch these men.

Calvin Johnson

But what is the point of all this discipline? Why do they do it? Of course, there is always the goal of winning. Every athlete wants to win. But again why? Why do they spend hours and hours refining their skills? Why do they want to win the Super Bowl?  The answer for many of these men is simple: self-glorification. Their primary goal for all their hours, all their labor, all their careful attention to detail is so they can flex in front of the camera or thump their chests when they score. (Money might be involved as well!)

Christians look at men like Calvin Johnson (pictured above) and shake our heads in disgust. The arrogance of many pro-athletes is hard to stomach. But the truth is we often do the same thing. We read our Bibles. We pray. We keep our house clean. We work hard. We go to church. We train our children. We evangelize. We read theology. We refine our theology. We watch pastors on the internet. We tithe. We prepare sermons. We become living, breathing examples of Christian discipline. But we don’t do it for God. Often the reason we are disciplined is so people will notice how amazing we are. We are just flexing for the cameras.

I am not encouraging laziness. Lack of zeal in the Christian life is a sin. We need to be disciplined as Christians. We should know our Bibles through and through. We should be prayer warriors. Our worship should be lively and vigorous. We should tithe at least 10% and more if we can. We should bring our children up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. As a pastor, I should labor hard over the text to make an excellent sermon. Whatever your job is, you should do it with cheer and excellence. But zeal doesn’t eliminate sin. There is a subtle temptation when we work hard to look around for the cameras. We end up wanting praise from men instead of praise from God. Can you be happy to lead a disciplined, God-honoring life if no one notices?  Would you be just as joyful if all your labor was done in the dark with no cameras and no praise? Are you upset when you work hard to help someone and no thanks comes your way? Ladies do you get upset when your labors at home go unnoticed? Men, does it upset you when you dig in at work and someone else gets promoted? Praise from men is gratifying when it comes. But if we are looking for it, longing for it, or upset when we don’t get it then we need to do a motivation check. Instead of seeking God’s praise, we might just be flexing for the cameras.

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